The Grocery Checkout Lady Made Me Cry

A Moment At The Grocery Checkout Brings Tears

Today was a very emotional day from the moment I woke up. Lately I have been reflecting on my life….that happens more and more as I get older.

March 14 is an anniversary of a tragic moment in my life that happened 43 years ago when I was in college. I’m not getting into that since it’s not the reason for this blog and I really don’t want this to be a bummer and sad blog.

The reason I’m writing is to share about a person (my adopted mother) that had an incredible impact on my life. I was adopted at the age of fourteen and will be forever grateful to have had her in my life. If you’ve read my other blogs you will know what I mean.  Today at the grocery store my checkout lady looked and acted just like my mother and I started to cry. I miss her so much and miss talking to her. We lost my mother to cancer and not a day goes by that I don’t think about her.

When we are young we take are parents for granted. I want to include an article that was written about my adopted parents. This will show what awesome people they were and how they helped people.

Volume 32, Number 8
August 2002
Gasts honored for volunteerism

With over 25 years of dedicated service, it is no wonder Bob and Marge Gast from Warsaw, Ind., have been named the Territorial Volunteer Family. What they have done to serve others through The Salvation Army could fill volumes, but here’s a glance.

Marge is a past advisory board member and a long-standing women’s auxiliary member. Both she and her husband work tirelessly on fundraising projects, including the auxiliary’s annual fruit and nut sale and the soup and pie luncheon. They have been instrumental in starting an auxiliary children’s fashion show and luncheon which raises funds to buy school clothes and shoes for underprivileged children. The Gasts also regularly purchase food and prepare the meal for the youth program on Wednesday nights. During the holidays, they’re on kettle duty, help with the Angel Tree and league of mercy.

They also serve their community by helping with senior center activities, and Bob heads up organization of Mobile Meals delivery through the Rotary Club. While they’re active in their own church, they support special events at the corps and Marge regularly attends the corps’ women’s Bible study.

The Army salutes you, Bob and Marge, for your Christian witness, commitment and service!

 I thank God everyday for bringing this beautiful family into my life. The article didn’t mention that they had 4 children and then adopted three of us…..that’s because they thought of us as their children……not once did we EVER feel different because we were adopted.  The same goes for their 4 biological children. We were brothers and sisters from the day we were adopted. I am a very lucky person! Cherish your family and have a great day!

Your Past Does Not Equal Your Future

Remember…Your Past Does Not Equal Your Future!

As I get older and really more recently, I have been reflecting on my life and the many decisions I would have made differently.  Why is it that we are so much more aware as we get older? I’ve thought about how I would have been more studious, a different major, visited my parents and family more often, financial decisions, taken better care of myself and the most important one- Not have been so selfish!

In general, I have been a good person and have many friends and a great family. Just have taken them more for granted. As I approach another year, I want to become a better person and this video spoke to me.  I wanted to share this and let you know that Your Past Does Not Equal Your Future!  its mine

This is an excellent video with an excellent message to all and give us hope to become that best that you can be and not let the past determine your self-worth.



The Simple Things

The Simple Things Are The Most Memorable Memories On Vacation

My daughter Kristina is on the right and her best friend Holly.

For some reason the other day a memory came to mind of a vacation I had taken with my daughter Kristina and her friend Holly. The memory is nothing big,  but a funny moment that we  remember and laugh about.

So here it is….We were driving to Florida and I had been driving all night while she and her friend slept.  They had insisted that we drive straight through.  It was about 6:00 am and I decided to pull over and just take a quick nap.  They would never know I stopped… they were sleeping.  I pulled over at a rest stop and I had just fallen asleep.  So who decides to wake up?  Her friend Holly who had the funniest look as if saying ‘What the hell are you doing?’  I know that this memory isn’t funny perhaps to you…but every time we talk about a trip we remember that for some odd reason. (It’s one of those …you had to be there moments)

Kristina and Holly have been best friends since grade school.  We have gone on many trips, and have spent the night at each others house many many times.  I have been very fortunate to have spent many great times and created many great and funny memories. Many years have past and they are grown women now….It all went so fast and will cherish the time when they were young.

My point to this is that we need to enjoy every moment and appreciate them.  It seems to me that whenever I reminisce about something… is always about the journey in getting there and not the destination as much.  It’s the Simple Things!

Don’t be in such a rush….. as they say take time and smell the roses.

If you have a memory to share I would love to hear it… would others….

Jaden Hayes Wish To Make People Smile

Jaden Hayes at the early age of 6 lost both of his parents at a young age and was tired of everyone being sad . What he sets out to do is amazing!  Watch the video and you can’t help smile…..perhaps a tear…


Kidnapped Boy Was Released After Singing A Gospel Song

Amazing Story Of How A Kidnapped Boy Was Released After Singing A Gospel Song


I was really moved when I heard about  Kidnapped Boy Was Released After Singing A Gospel Song. You hear such unhappy endings when a child is abducted.  It was so uplifting to be able to hear a happy ending for once.

The thing that I was disappointed about was that I had not heard about this.  In my opinion this should have been all over the news.  Maybe it was and I just missed it.  Regardless I am glad I was able to learn about this brave young man.

God Works in mysterious ways………….

How Did I Get To The Back Nine So Soon?

 Wondering…….How Did I Get To The Back Nine So Soon? life

The following is an email I received from a friend and it has a strong message. It completely articulates my feelings exactly.  I couldn’t have said any better.

Thanks Tom!

You know … Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. Yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. I know that I lived them all. I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams.

But, here it is… The back nine of my life and it catches me by surprise…How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my youth go?

I remember well seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that I was only on the first hole and the back nine was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like.

But, here it is…my friends are retired and getting gray…they move slower and I see an older person now. Some are in better and some worse shape than me…but, I see the great change…Not like the ones that I remember who were young and vibrant…but, like me, their age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we’d become.

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore… it’s mandatory! Cause if I don’t on my own free will… I just fall asleep where I sit!

And so…now I enter into this new season of my life unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and ability to go and do things that I wish I had done but never did!! But, at least I know, that though I’m on the back nine, and I’m not sure how long it will last…this I know, that when it’s over on this earth…it’s over. A new adventure will begin! Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn’t done…things I should have done, but indeed, there are many things I’m happy to have done. It’s all in a lifetime.

So, if you’re not on the back nine yet…let me remind you, that it will be here faster than you think. So, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life please do it quickly! Don’t put things off too long!! Life goes by quickly. So, do what you can today, as you can never be sure whether you’re on the back nine or not!

You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life…so, live for today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember…and hope that they appreciate and love you for all the things that you have done for them in all the years past!!

“Life” is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic one.


Remember “It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.


Everyone Matters No Matter Who They Are

Do you treat people differently based upon their religion, their career choice, their job title, their age, a stranger, your child, a pet? The list is endless, but know this,  Everyone Matters No Matter Who They Are

I believe Everyone Matters No Matter Who They Are

We often put people in categories depending upon their importance. Some get more respect than others, some are treated with less respect. Just acknowledging someone’s existence can make a HUGE difference in a person’s life. Here’s a question for you, what is the name of the custodian in your work place?  When was the last time you just said, thank you I appreciate you?  How about a sincere compliment to someone just because you knew it might make their day?

It’s not some huge thing to show someone that, Everyone Matters No Matter Who They Are.  Maybe a hug, a hand shake, a smile a phone call, a visit, a quick email or just anything that will make them feel they matter. You never know what kind of day that person is having and what your kindness will do to make a difference.

Your Kindness Shows Everyone Matters No Matter Who They Are

We live in a world where everyone is in a hurry and we never take the time to slow down just to acknowledge each other. Don’t take for granted that someone knows how you feel.  Turn off your phone and really listen, turn off your computer, take time off and slow down and enjoy someone’s company. Always remember Everyone Matters No Matter Who They Are

Organ Donation-Saving Lives

This video speaks louder than words about Organ Donation

Organ Donation

Facts About Organ Donation

  • 21 people die every day while waiting for a transplant.
  • 1 organ donor can save 8 lives and change the lives of more than 50 people
  • Almost anyone can be an organ donor, regardless of age or medical history.
  • All major religions in the U.S. support organ donation.
  • Donors can still have open casket funerals, and organ donation doesn’t cost the donor’s family any money.
  • If a person is hospitalized, the medical staff provides the best possible care, regardless of organ donor status. Organ Donation is only considered after a patient has died.
  • Donors are needed for all races and ethnic groups. Transplant success rates increase when organs are matched between members of the same ethnic background.
  • Signing the back of your license or a donor card is not enough.
  • To officially register as an organ donor click here.

Organ Donation Saves Lives!

Things I Regret Taking For Granted When I Was Younger

My birthday is in a few days and I find myself looking back at my life. There were so many Things I Regret Taking For Granted When I Was Younger.  Perhaps someone reading this blog will take away a valuable lesson from it.

I have always loved the Beatles and felt the song ‘Blackbird’ fit well with what I was feeling as I wrote.


Things I Regret Taking For Granted When I Was Younger

When reflecting back on what I wanted to share a few of the Things I Regret Taking For Granted When I Was Younger   They were my moms.  I was fortunate to have two mothers.  I lost my biological mom in a car accident at the age of 14 and never really told her how much I loved her.  One of the last things she probably remembered was that I did not spend her birthday with her.  I preferred to be with the family that eventually adopted me, because I did not want to go back to the inner city where we lived. I was a selfish little girl.   I regret not telling her I loved her and spending time with her when I had the chance.

Another major regret is when a few years ago my adopted mother was dying of cancer I did not stay by her side and comfort her more.  I wished that when she was alive I had thanked her for taking me in and giving me a wonderful life. I always felt loved and took her love for granted.  If I wasn’t able to visit she was always understanding and would say “You have your family and I know you’re busy honey”.  I miss her calling me honey.  I miss calling her for advise.  I miss her hugs. I miss her smile. I miss her so much it hurts!

I have been emotional more than usual and wanted to share and speak to my moms.  Even though they are not physically here…..I know they are in spirit.  I feel their presence every time I see something they loved.  I love you both and miss you!